HI, JUST CAME HOME TO INDIANA FROM MY LITTLE FLORIDA HOME FOR A VISIT. ONE OF THE FIRST PRIORITIES IS GOING TO THE CEMETARY WHERE LISA IS BURIED BESIDE HER BROTHER JUST AS ALAN MATHENEY PROMISED HER SHE WOULD BE IF SHE PUT HIM IN JAIL. THEY'RE UNDER A PINE TREE. WE HAD LOTS OF PINE TREES WHERE WE LIVED. I'LL BE THERE SOMEDAY, TOO. WHEN I WAS RAISING LISA'S TWO GIRLS AND WORKING AND WORKING FOR VICTIMS, SOMETIMES I WOULD GET SO FRUSTRATED AND TIRED THAT I WOULD GO OUT TO THE CEMETARY AND SIT ON THE PLOT TO GET AS CLOSE TO THEM AS I COULD. iT SEEMED AS THOUGH I COULD HEAR LISA SAYING: "MOM, I DON'T NEED YOU NOW, BUT THEY DO. I KNEW SHE MEANT HER GIRLS. THIS TIME WHEN I SAT THERE I HEARD IT AGAIN, BUT THIS TIME I KNOW SHE WAS TALKING ABOUT YOU, THE PEOPLE WHO COME TO THIS SITE AND/OR READ THE BOOK. I READ A SAYING THAT THE SUPERIOR PERSON FINDS WITHIN HIM/HERSELF ALL THAT THEY SEEK. THE SMALLER PERSON FINDS IT IN OTHERS. START BY USING YOUR INNER STRENGTH TO LEARN, CHANGE, HELP AND FIND THE FREEDOM AND POWER YOU HAVE WITHIN YOURSELF. iT'S IN THERE. THEN FIND THOSE WHO WANT TO HELP YOU. THEY'RE THERE.
IF YOU ARE IN A SITUATION WHERE YOU ARE A VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS TO VALUE YOURSELF AND RESOLVE NOT TO EVER LET ANYONE THINK THAT THEY HAVE THE RIGHT TO LAY THEIR HANDS ON YOU. iF YOU DON'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT, YOU SEND THE MESSAGE THAT IT'S OK. WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO CHANGE MIGHT BE YOUR DEATH NOTICE. FOLLOW ALL THE STEPS AND PERSIST UNTIL YOU ARE FREE. IF YOU ARE OR ARE NOT A VICTIM, ONE OF THE MOST APPRECIATED THINGS THAT PEOPLE REMEMBER ABOUT LISA IS THAT SHE REALIZED THE VALUE OF EDUCATION AND PUT HERSELF THRU COLLEGE. THEN, EVEN THOUGH SHE COULD HAVE GONE INTO THE BUSINESS WORLD AND FORGOTTEN ABOUT IT, SHE USED HER EDUCATION TO HELP WOMEN IN SIMILAR SITUATIONS BECAUSE SHE KNEW WHAT IT WAS LIKE. THERE IS NO GREATER OR MORE REWARDING PURPOSE THAN TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THE LIFE OF ANOTHER PERSON, AND HOPEFULLY, MANY PEOPLE. THERE IS NOTHING THAT SUCCEEDS MORE THAN PERSISTENCE. IT IS A POSITIVE WAY TO CONTRIBUTE TO SOCIETY AND YOU WILL HAVE LEFT YOUR MARK AND CONTRIBUTION. IT CAN BE ANYTHING FROM VOLUNTEER WORK TO LEGISLATION. WE'VE BEEN LEFT BEHIND FOR TOO LONG. LET'S KEEP UP THE MOMENTUM!!. MILLIE THERE'S A LOT OF CURRENT DISCUSSION ABOUT NEANDERTHAL DNA FOUND IN MODERN MAN. I, FOR ONE, WOULD BE OFFENDED IF I WERE A NEANDERTHAL. STUDIES INDICATE THAT ALL GREAT APES (AND IF HOMO SAPIENS ARE A TYPE OF GREAT APE) HAVE THE ABILITY TO KKNOW WHEN A FEMALE IS OVULATING AND WILL HAVE SEX ONLY WITH OVULATING FEMALES. MODERN MAN, ON THE OTHER HAND-----WELL, ---YOU KNOW,--- WILLL HAVE SEX ONLY WHILE HE IS BREATHING. THIS SEEMINGLY UNCONTROLLABE URGE DESIGNED TO KEEP PEOPLE ON THE PLANET, FOR SOME IS THE MOTIVATING FACTOR IN RAPES, SEXUAL ASSAULTS, MOLESTATIONS, STALKINGS, SEX DRIVEN MURDERS, TORTURE AND ALL KINDS OF PERVERSIONS. WHILE I AM NOT ADVOCATING SEX ONLY FOR PROCREATION, IT WOULD BE GREAT IF THE GUYS COULD FIND A HAPPY IN BETWEEN. HATS OFF TO THE NEANDERTHALS! THE TITLE "WHO KILLED LANA B?" IS ACTUALLY A REVERSAL OF THE THEORY OF HILLARY CLINTON'S BOOK, "IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A CHILD". THE POSITION IS THAT IT TAKES A COMMUNITY AND IT'S APATHY TO KILL A VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. ALL THE SYSTEMS THAT FAILED HER, EVEN THOUGH SHE DID ALL THE RIGHT THINGS AND THE SYSTEMS THAT SHOULD BE IN PLACE TO PROTECT EACH OF US FAILED AND CONTINUE TO FAIL IN VARIOUS DEGREES ON A DAILY BASIS. ALAN MATHENEY MAY HAVE STRUCK THE PHYSICAL BLOWS, BUT SHE WAS BEATEN DOWN BY A FLAWED SYSTEM. WHERE IS THE ACCOUNTABILITY, THE CHECKS AND BALANCES? DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS A WORLD WIDE EPIDEMIC AND SHOULD BE LEARNED AND TAUGHT IN SCHOOLS . PLEASE CONTINUE TO EDUCATE YOURSELF AND OTHERS. ONE PERSON CAN CHANGE THINGS THROUGH THE RIPPLE EFFECT. YOU MAY ALSO SAVE A LIFE, PERHAPS YOUR OWN. TODAY'S MESSAGE IS BROUGHT TO WITH LOVE FROM LISA AND MILLIE. AFTER LISA'S MURDER, THEN GOVERNOR EVAN BAYH OF INDIANA CHARGED A SPECIAL ASSISTANT TO INVESTIGATE WHAT HAPPENED. IT WAS A BIG ISSUE BECAUSE ALAN MATHENEY WAS IN THE WORK RELEASE PROGRAM AT THE INDIANA DEPARTMENT OF CORRECTIONS WHEN HE KILLED HER. (APRIL, 1989) "NO DOC PROCEDURE HAS BEEN FOUND WHICH REQUIRES NOTIFICATION OF AN OFFENDER'S VICTIM OF THE OFFENDER'S LEAVES OR PASSES WHEN NECESSARY OR ADVISABLE TO PROTECT THE SAFETY OF THE VICTIM. NO PROCEDURE HAS BEEN FOUND REQUIRING NOTIFICATION OF LAW ENFORCEMENT OFFICIALS OF LEAVES OR PASSES EXCEPT IN EXTREMELY LIMITED CIRCUMSTANCES. MILLER, HANKS, AND GEORGE ALL TALKED TO MS. EMRETI WHEN SHE CALLED. ALL KNEW THAT MATHENEY HAD GRIEVOUSLY HARMED BIANCO AND CONFINED HIS CHILDREN. ALL KNEW OF LISA BIANCO'S ALLEGATIONS THAT MATHENEY WOULD HARM HER IF RELEASED. SPOUSE BEATING IS NOT INCLUDED IN THE CRIMES WHICH MAKE AN OFFENDER INELIGIBLE FOR WORK RELEASE/RCA AND, THEREFORE, SPECIAL ASSIGNMENT. THIS IS IN THE FACE OF THE FACT THAT MOST FEMALE HOMICIDES ARE COMMITTED BY THE HUSBANDS OF THE VICTIMS" I LATER TESTIFIED ON LEGISLATION CREATING A VICTIM'S NOTIFICATION BILL. THE ABOVE IS JUST A SHORT PART OF WHAT WENT WRONG, BUT IT ALL STARTED WITH THE FIRST SLAP, WHICH WENT UNCHALLENGED. FOLLOW LISA FIRST, WE NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT IT IS NOT SIMPLY A MATTER BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE. LIKE CLINTON'S BOOK ABOUT IT TAKING A COMMUNITY TO RAISE A CHILD, IT TAKES A COMMUNITY TO DEAL WITH THE PROBLEM. THAT MEANS FIRST THAT THEY NEED TO UNDERSTAND THE COMPLEXITY OF THE PROBLEM. THERE IS A GENDER, HISTORICAL AND LEGAL PERSPECTIVE. SO THE FIRST STEP IS TO EDUCATE YOURSELF ABOUT THOSE INFLUENCES EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT INVOLVED. SO MANY PEOPLE WILL BE IN DENIAL. WOMEN, BECAUSE THEY THINK IT CAN'T HAPPEN TO THEM AND THEIR LACK OF KNOWLEDGE OF THE FACTS. MEN, BECAUSE OF EGO AND BROTHERHOOD. PEOPLE WILL RESIST CHANGE IF THEY REFUSE TO AKNOWLEDGE THE FACTS. ONE OF MY FAVORITE QUOTES EXPLAINS THE SITUATION. "EVIL IS LIKE A SHADOW--IT HAS NO REAL SUBSTANCE, IT IS SIMPLY A LACK OF LIGHT. YOU CANNOT CAUSE A SHADOW TO DISAPPEAR BY TRYING TO FIGHT IT, STAMP ON IT, BY RAILING AGAINST IT. IN ORDER TO CAUSE A SHADOW TO DISAPEAR, YOU MUST SHINE LIGHT ON IT." ----SHAKYI GAWAIN, TEACHER, AUTHOR THIS IS WHAT I HAVE TRIED TO DO SINCE LISA'S MURDER, SHINE THE LIGHT. READ HER EXPERIENCES AND LEARN. IF I HAD MY DRUTHERS, I MIGHT HAVE PUBLISHED THE BOOK UNDER A TITLE SOMETHING LIKE "DOMESTIC VIOLENCE FOR DUMMIES" AS A REFERENCE BOOK IN MY HOPE TO GET THE MESSAGE OUT TO THE GREATEST NUMBER OF PEOPLE, ALONG WITH SPECIFIC THINGS THEY CAN DO TO CHANGE THE SITUATION BESIDES SMITH AND WESSON THERAPY. PLEASE CONTINUE TO LEARN MILLIE . Click here and start typing, or drag in elements from the top bar. | AuthorWrite something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview. ArchivesMay 2012 CategoriesAll |
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