We often hear about a cycle of violence. 
This is when a victim is hurt mentally or physically, the abuser then goes away for a while and then contacts the victim with what seems to be remorse, "I'm sorry, I'll never do it again. 
It happens again, again, the abuser is sorry and there's another "honeymoon".
Each time this happens the abuse escalates.  She's sure he will eventually change, but he doesn't. 
The wait for the change is sometimes a death sentence for the victim.
There was once a traveler going up the mountain on foot.  At the bottom, he met a snake. 
The snake begged:  "Please take me up the mountain, I'm so tired and you could just put me in your pocket." 
The traveler said," Oh, no, you're a snake and you will bite me." The snake was so pathetic and said, "Oh, I would never do that, if you were so kind to me and just put me in your pocket .
I'll never do that." 
So, the traveler picked up the snake and started up the mountain.  When he got to the top and was taking the snake out of his pocket, the poisonous snake bit him. 
The traveler cried in pain and crushing disappointment:  "You promised you wouldn't bite me!"
The snake sneered and looked him in the eye and said:  "You idiot, you knew what I was when you picked me up!"
Are you picking up a snake?
How many times should you pick up a snake before you learn?
Please learn sooner than later.
Millie working for you

 For those of you who have never feared going to the internet for help, please be aware that this is a very real punishable offence for victims from their abuser. 

Computer use can be monitored by the abuser to access email and find out what sites are visited on the internet. 

If you think you are in danger, use safe computers such as at the public library, domestic violence organization or community center.

You can first call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE  (7233), from a phone where the number called is not available to the abuser. 

You cannot know how many ways an abuser can access what you do on the internet. 

For your security, please go to WomensLaw.org.

There you will find information and answers to the questions

“Can the abuser access my email account?”.

“What steps should I take even if I think the abuser does NOT have access to my email account?”,

”What should I do if I think the abuser can access my email account?”,

What should I do if I think the abuser can access my email account?”,

How do I know I am sending email from my account or from the abuser’s account when I click on an email link that I found on a website?”, and

“What should I do if I receive threatening or harassing emails from the abuser?”   

For those of you who do not live like this, go to the site and see how much time and effort and fear and difficulty is involved in just this ONE minute area of a victim’s life. 

I know, Lisa knew, and you should, too.

These are your sisters in womankind.

Take good care of yourself.

Millie