THE TITLE "WHO KILLED LANA B?" IS ACTUALLY A REVERSAL OF THE THEORY OF HILLARY CLINTON'S BOOK, "IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A CHILD". THE POSITION IS THAT IT TAKES A COMMUNITY AND IT'S APATHY TO KILL A VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. ALL THE SYSTEMS THAT FAILED HER, EVEN THOUGH SHE DID ALL THE RIGHT THINGS AND THE SYSTEMS THAT SHOULD BE IN PLACE TO PROTECT EACH OF US FAILED AND CONTINUE TO FAIL IN VARIOUS DEGREES ON A DAILY BASIS. ALAN MATHENEY MAY HAVE STRUCK THE PHYSICAL BLOWS, BUT SHE WAS BEATEN DOWN BY A FLAWED SYSTEM. WHERE IS THE ACCOUNTABILITY, THE CHECKS AND BALANCES?
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS A WORLD WIDE EPIDEMIC AND SHOULD BE LEARNED AND TAUGHT IN SCHOOLS . PLEASE CONTINUE TO EDUCATE YOURSELF AND OTHERS. ONE PERSON CAN CHANGE THINGS THROUGH THE RIPPLE EFFECT. YOU MAY ALSO SAVE A LIFE, PERHAPS YOUR OWN. TODAY'S MESSAGE IS BROUGHT TO WITH LOVE FROM LISA AND MILLIE. AFTER LISA'S MURDER, THEN GOVERNOR EVAN BAYH OF INDIANA CHARGED A SPECIAL ASSISTANT TO INVESTIGATE WHAT HAPPENED. IT WAS A BIG ISSUE BECAUSE ALAN MATHENEY WAS IN THE WORK RELEASE PROGRAM AT THE INDIANA DEPARTMENT OF CORRECTIONS WHEN HE KILLED HER. (APRIL, 1989)
"NO DOC PROCEDURE HAS BEEN FOUND WHICH REQUIRES NOTIFICATION OF AN OFFENDER'S VICTIM OF THE OFFENDER'S LEAVES OR PASSES WHEN NECESSARY OR ADVISABLE TO PROTECT THE SAFETY OF THE VICTIM. NO PROCEDURE HAS BEEN FOUND REQUIRING NOTIFICATION OF LAW ENFORCEMENT OFFICIALS OF LEAVES OR PASSES EXCEPT IN EXTREMELY LIMITED CIRCUMSTANCES. MILLER, HANKS, AND GEORGE ALL TALKED TO MS. EMRETI WHEN SHE CALLED. ALL KNEW THAT MATHENEY HAD GRIEVOUSLY HARMED BIANCO AND CONFINED HIS CHILDREN. ALL KNEW OF LISA BIANCO'S ALLEGATIONS THAT MATHENEY WOULD HARM HER IF RELEASED. SPOUSE BEATING IS NOT INCLUDED IN THE CRIMES WHICH MAKE AN OFFENDER INELIGIBLE FOR WORK RELEASE/RCA AND, THEREFORE, SPECIAL ASSIGNMENT. THIS IS IN THE FACE OF THE FACT THAT MOST FEMALE HOMICIDES ARE COMMITTED BY THE HUSBANDS OF THE VICTIMS" I LATER TESTIFIED ON LEGISLATION CREATING A VICTIM'S NOTIFICATION BILL. THE ABOVE IS JUST A SHORT PART OF WHAT WENT WRONG, BUT IT ALL STARTED WITH THE FIRST SLAP, WHICH WENT UNCHALLENGED. FOLLOW LISA FIRST, WE NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT IT IS NOT SIMPLY A MATTER BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE. LIKE CLINTON'S BOOK ABOUT IT TAKING A COMMUNITY TO RAISE A CHILD, IT TAKES A COMMUNITY TO DEAL WITH THE PROBLEM. THAT MEANS FIRST THAT THEY NEED TO UNDERSTAND THE COMPLEXITY OF THE PROBLEM. THERE IS A GENDER, HISTORICAL AND LEGAL PERSPECTIVE. SO THE FIRST STEP IS TO EDUCATE YOURSELF ABOUT THOSE INFLUENCES EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT INVOLVED. SO MANY PEOPLE WILL BE IN DENIAL. WOMEN, BECAUSE THEY THINK IT CAN'T HAPPEN TO THEM AND THEIR LACK OF KNOWLEDGE OF THE FACTS. MEN, BECAUSE OF EGO AND BROTHERHOOD. PEOPLE WILL RESIST CHANGE IF THEY REFUSE TO AKNOWLEDGE THE FACTS.
ONE OF MY FAVORITE QUOTES EXPLAINS THE SITUATION. "EVIL IS LIKE A SHADOW--IT HAS NO REAL SUBSTANCE, IT IS SIMPLY A LACK OF LIGHT. YOU CANNOT CAUSE A SHADOW TO DISAPPEAR BY TRYING TO FIGHT IT, STAMP ON IT, BY RAILING AGAINST IT. IN ORDER TO CAUSE A SHADOW TO DISAPEAR, YOU MUST SHINE LIGHT ON IT." ----SHAKYI GAWAIN, TEACHER, AUTHOR THIS IS WHAT I HAVE TRIED TO DO SINCE LISA'S MURDER, SHINE THE LIGHT. READ HER EXPERIENCES AND LEARN. IF I HAD MY DRUTHERS, I MIGHT HAVE PUBLISHED THE BOOK UNDER A TITLE SOMETHING LIKE "DOMESTIC VIOLENCE FOR DUMMIES" AS A REFERENCE BOOK IN MY HOPE TO GET THE MESSAGE OUT TO THE GREATEST NUMBER OF PEOPLE, ALONG WITH SPECIFIC THINGS THEY CAN DO TO CHANGE THE SITUATION BESIDES SMITH AND WESSON THERAPY. PLEASE CONTINUE TO LEARN MILLIE . Click here and start typing, or drag in elements from the top bar. i WANTED TO SHARE THIS DREAM WITH YOU BECAUSE OF THE INSIGHT IT GAVE ME AND AN ACKNOWLEDGEMENT OF LISA'S LIFE. WHAT A TREMENDOUS EFFORT ON HER PART JUST TO LIVE HER OWN LIFE AND PROVIDE A NORMAL LIFE FOR HER CHILDREN AND KEEP SMILING THAT BEAUTIFUL SMILE.
I DREAMED THAT ALAN MATHENEY WAS OUT OF PRISON AND THAT I WAS NOW HIS VICTIM AND BEING STALKED. DURING THE TIME BETWEEN LISA'S MURDER AND NOW,I BUILT UP THIS SHEER WALL IN GUT, HEART AND MIND THAT I WOULD HAVE NO FEAR OF HIM BECAUSE I WILLED THAT HE WOULD NOT "KILL" ME EMOTIONALLY AND TO PRESENT A GOOD FRONT FOR THE GIRLS. IN THE DREAM, A THOUGHT AND FEAR EMANATING FROM THE PIT OF MY STOMACH AND IN THE BACK OF MY MIND WAS "WHAT IS HE GOING TO DO NEXT?", "WHAT WILL I FIND WHEN I GET HOME?", WHEN IS HE GOING TO KILL ME AS HE PROMISED?", " I KNOW THEY WON'T DO ANYTHING 'TILL HE KILLS ME"," WHY WILL NO ONE LISTEN AND BELIEVE?", "WHY DOES NO ONE CARE?" EVERYTHING I DID IN THE NORMAL COURSE OF THE DAY HAD TO BE FILTERED THROUGH THIS. IN THE DREAM, I DID FIND HIM IN THE HOUSE WHEN I CAME HOME AND I REMEMBER HIM TELLING ME THAT MY WORK IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE WAS GOING TO BE MY DOWNFALL. THERE WAS AN OBJECT THAT WAS EITHER A CELLPHONE OR A GUN THAT I SLIPPED UNDER A MATTRESS. IN THE LAST SCENE OF THE DREAM, THERE WERE POLICE OUTSIDE THE DOOR, BUT I COULD NOT GET AWAY. I LIVED LISA'S AND SO MANY OTHER'S LIVES IN THAT DREAM. DEAR GOD, WHY WOMEN? IT TOOKK 100 YEARS TO GET THE VOTE, HOW LONG BEFORE THE FACTS ARE ACKNOWLEDGED? WITHOUT ACKNOWLEDGEMENT CAN THERE BE CHANGE? i READ THAT THE MURDER RATE IS TEN TO ONE FOR MEN MURDERING AN INTIMATE PARTNER, AS OPPOSED TO WOMEN MURDERING. THIS PUTS ME IN MIND OF THE SENATOR WHO TOLD ME THAT THERE ARE TWO SIDES TO EVERY STORY. IT JUST DEPENDS ON WHAT YOU WANT TO BELIEVE AND REFUSE TO ACKNOWLEDGE. BRINGING LISA'S MESSAGES TO YOU- MILLIE TODAY IS MOTHER'S DAY AND I THINK OF THE CEMETARY PLOT IN INDIANA. THE ONE UNDER THE PINE TREE WHERE LISA AND MY SON, MICHAEL ARE BURIED. SOMETIMES WHILE RAISING LISA'S GIRLS, I WOULD GO AND SIT ON THE GRAVESITE AND TALK TO THEM. I AM ALSO REMINDED OF ANOTHER MOTHER'S DAY BACK IN THE DAYS OF FLEEING FROM ALAN MATHENEY. WE WERE IN AN OFF-THE- ROAD MOTEL IN MICHIGAN. WHEN I WOKE UP, LISA AND THE GIRLS WERE GONE. HOW LISA GOT THE TWO GIRLS UP AND LEFT WITH THEM WITHOUT WAKING ME SEEMS ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE. THEY RETURNED FROM MCDONALD'S WITH BREAKFAST SANDWICHES AND COFFEE AND JUICE AND MILK FOR THE GIRLS. THEY WERE FIVE AND THREE. WE ALWAYS TOLD THEM WE WERE ON VACATION WHEN WE WERE RUNNING AND NEVER GAVE THEM THE NAME OF THE TOWN BECAUSE THEY MIGHT TELL SOMEONE WHO KNEW ALAN. LISA PRESENTED ME WITH A BEAUTIFUL FLORAL MUG SHE HAD SECRETLY BOUGHT FOR ME. I WILL ALWAYS TREASURE IT.
I SINCERELY HOPE THAT YOUR MOTHER'S DAY MEMORIES ARE NEVER TRAGIC NEVER, NEVER, NEVER THINK THAT IT CANNOT HAPPEN TO YOU OR YOURS. PLEASE LEARN FROM LISA'S STORY. HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! MILLIE | AuthorWrite something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview. ArchivesJuly 2012 CategoriesAll |
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