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MY WASHINGTON INVITATION

4/27/2011

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i WANT TO SHARE WITH ALL OF YOU THE GREAT HONOR i WAS AWARDED BY BEING INVITED TO WASHINGTON TO BE A PART OF THE NATIONAL CRIMINAL JUSTICE ASSOCIATIONS WEEK LONG PROGRAM.  I WAS TREATED LIKE VISITING ROYALTY AND MET THE PEOPLE i HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR SINCE LISA'S MURDER.  I'M VERY HAPPY TO TELL YOU THAT GOOD THINGS HAVE BEEN HAPPENING FOR VICITMS,  LONG WAY TO GO, BUT  THEY ARE DILIGENT IN THEIR PURPOSE.  I'VE ALWAYS KNOWN THAT THINGS WOULD NEEED TO REACH THE FEDERAL LEVEL TO INSURE ACCOUNTABILTY FROM ALL AREAS , CITY, COUNTY, STATE, BECAUSE THEY ALL HAVE BEEN HANDLING OR NOT HANDLING AS THEY PLEASED.
iI WAS TOLD THAT HEARING MY PERSONAL STORY WAS INSPIRING AND THAT MY REMARKS WERE ESSENTION TO SETTING THE PERFECT TONE FOR THE ENTIRE NATIONAL WORKSHOP.

YESTERDAY I RECEIVED A LETTER FROM THE EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR OF THE NATIONAL CRIMINAL JUSTICE ASSOCIATION .  BECAUSE OF MY WORK ON BEHALF OF VICTIMS FOR DECADES  (HOW CAN THAT BE?) I'VE BEEN OFFICIALLY DESIGNATED WITH THE TITLE OF "MOTHER OF VICTIM NOTIFICATION".  IS THAT WONDROUS OR WHAT? i NEVER MADE A CENT, DID WHAT I LOVED FOR LISA AND HER SISTERS AND NO AMOUNT OF MONEY COULD BUY THESE REWARDS!
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PROLOGUE FROM THE BOOK: The Murder

8/17/2010

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Lee  pulled her car up behind the ambulance in front of Lana's home. she got out of the car with shaking legs, told the policeman nearest her: " I'm Lana's mother, I want to see her."  The view across the street was blocked, the doors of the ambulance open, but no one was inside.  She could not see Lana and was unaware that she was lying across the street , dead.
          The policeman stared blankly at her.
          "I'm Lana's mother and I want to see her, she repeated becoming more alarmed.  "Where is she?"
          A strange look came over the policeman's face.  He seemed unable to respond and eventually blurted out:  "Well, ma'am he bludgeoned her to death."

          Lee heard in her ears a scream that seemed to come from the depths of the earth and rise to the heavens.  She distinctly remembered that in the midst of that scream, the thought came over her,   "Free at last, my darling daughter, free at last."

          That's what it can come to for victims of domestic violence and their families:  the final release from stalking, beating, harrassment, victimization is death.  She felt her kneess going out from underneath her and someone supporting her and saying:  "The girls need you."



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THANKS TO MICHIANA, SOUTH BEND, MISHAWAKA, ELKHART

8/5/2010

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THE HITS ON THIS WEBSITE HAVE SPIKED AND I WANT TO THANK CHERYL AND  ALL MY FRIENDS IN THE MICHIANA AREA FOR THEIR HELP IN RESEARCHING AND VISITING THE SITE.  MY MISSION HAS ALWAYS BEEN TO INFORM THE PUBLIC OF WHAT LURKS BEHIND CLOSED DOORS IN THE AREA OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.  PLEASE LEARN AND REMEMBER.  I THANK YOU AND I KNOW LISA WOULD, TOO.
MILLIE BIANCO
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7/22/2010

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HIDING FROM DETAILS OF LISA BIANCO'S MURDER, LOCAL PRESS SHUNS BOOK

While getting good response and exposure to Who Killed Lana B? in my new home state and areas outside South Bend, Mishawaka and Elkhart,, the major newspapers in South Bend and Elkhart,  Indiana refused to print press releases on my  book.
What does that tell you?  Some things they would like to keep from the public?  Some things not good Chamber of Commerce material?  Some people pull shady stuff?. These are the things you need to know.  During the time of the big story and my work on behalf of domestic violence victims, I was the media darling. That was when I had to be somewhat "politically correct".  The book is not, and I am so happy to be able to divulge some of the "secrets of the system".  Take advantage and learn  from Lisa.
Millie
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A DOMESTIC VIOLENCE POEM FROM A VICTIM WHO WAS THEN MURDERED

7/15/2010

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THIS IS A POEM I FOUND IN A LITTLE SPIRAL NOTEBOOK  AT LISA'S HOME FOLLOWING THE FUNERAL.

MY LIFEIS LIKE A DEAD-END STREET
HAVING NO NEW ROADS TO TRY
MY ROAD IS FULL OF CHUCKHOLES
SEEMS I'M ALWAYS FALLING BEHIND

MAYBE SOMEDAY, THOUGH
MY  LIFE WILL CHANGE
MAYBE MEN WILL COME AND FIX MY ROAD
MAKE IT FREE OF ALL IT'S CHUCKHOLES

MAKE IT A HIGHWAY
OR AT LEAST LEAD TO OTHER ROADS
AND THEN MAYBE I CAN COME OUT
FIND A NEW ROAD
FOLLOW IT TO WHERE IT LEADS
AND WHO KNOWS
WHAT I MIGHT FIND-----
MAYBE A NEW LIFE, OR COULD IT BE
TO ANOTHER DEAD-END ROAD?

YOU NOTICE LISA WROTE"MAYBE "MEN" WILL COME AND FIX MY ROAD?"

MAYBE, BUT I THINK ITS GOING TO TAKE LOTS AND LOTS OF WOMEN, INVOLVED IN EVERYTHING FROM LAW ENFORCEMENT, SUPPORT, LEGISLATION AND JUDGES ON THE BENCH.  ESPECIALLY IN THE FIELD OF LEGISLATION, (ATTORNEYS), I'VE FOUND MANY WOMEN DISALLUSIONED AND GIVE UP CRIMINAL PROSECUTION.  DON'T DO IT, WE NEED YOU MOST TO BALANCE OUT THE SYSTEM.  THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE TO MANKIND.   (WOMENKIND)
MILLIE
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I PROMISE, I'LL NEVER DO IT AGAIN.--- SOUND FAMILIAR?

7/7/2010

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WE OFTEN HEAR ABOUT A CYCLE OF VIOLENCE.  THIS IS WHEN A VICTIM IS HURT MENTALLY OR PHYSICALLY, THE ABUSER THEN GOES AWAY FOR A WHILE AND THEN CONTACTS THE VICTIM WITH WHAT SEEMS TO BE REMORSE, "I'M SORRY, I'LL NEVER DO IT AGAIN.  IT HAPPENS AGAIN, AGAIN, THE ABUSER IS SORRY AND THERE'S ANOTHER "HONEYMOON ". EACH TIME THIS HAPPENS THE ABUSE ESCALATES.  SHE'S SURE HE WILL EVENTUALLY CHANGE, BUT HE DOESN'T.  THE WAIT FOR THE CHANGE IS SOMETIMES A DEATH SENTENCE FOR THE VICTIM. 


THERE WAS ONCE A TRAVELER GOING UP THE MOUNTAIN ON FOOT.  AT THE BOTTOM, HE MET A SNAKE.  THE SNAKE BEGGED:  "PLEASE TAKE ME UP THE MOUNTAIN, I'M SO TIRED AND YOU COULD JUST PUT ME IN YOUR POCKET."  THE TRAVELER SAID," OH, NO, YOU'RE A SNAKE AND YOU WILL BITE ME." THE SNAKE WAS SO PATHETIC AND SAID, "OH, I WOULD NEVER DO THAT, IF YOU WERE SO KIND TO ME AND JUST PUT ME IN YOUR POCKET.I'LL NEVER DO THAT."  SO, THE TRAVELER PICKED UP THE SNAKE AND STARTED UP THE MOUNTAIN.  WHEN HE GOT TO THE TOP AND WAS TAKING THE SNAKE OUT OF HIS POCKET, THE POISONOUS SNAKE BIT HIM.  THE TRAVELER CRIED IN PAIN AND CRUSHING DISAPPOINTMENT:  "YOU PROMISED YOU WOULDN'T BITE ME!" TtHE SNAKE SNEERED AND LOOKED HIM IN THE EYE AND SAID:  "YOU IDIOT, YOU KNEW WHAT I WAS WHEN YOU PICKED ME UP!" ARE YOU PICKING UP A SNAKE?HOW MANY TIMES SHOULD YOU PICK UP A SNAKE BEFORE YOU LEARN?
PLEASE LEARN SOONER THAN LATER.
MILLIE WORKING FOR YOU
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TALKING TO LISA THRU THE GRAVE

6/23/2010

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HI, JUST CAME HOME TO INDIANA FROM MY LITTLE FLORIDA HOME FOR A VISIT.  ONE OF THE FIRST PRIORITIES IS GOING TO THE CEMETARY WHERE LISA IS BURIED BESIDE HER BROTHER JUST AS ALAN MATHENEY PROMISED HER SHE WOULD BE IF SHE PUT HIM IN JAIL.  THEY'RE UNDER A PINE TREE.  WE HAD LOTS OF PINE TREES WHERE WE LIVED.  I'LL BE THERE SOMEDAY, TOO.  WHEN I WAS RAISING LISA'S TWO GIRLS AND WORKING AND WORKING FOR VICTIMS, SOMETIMES I WOULD GET SO FRUSTRATED AND TIRED THAT I WOULD GO OUT TO THE CEMETARY AND SIT ON THE PLOT TO GET AS CLOSE TO THEM AS I COULD.  iT SEEMED AS THOUGH I COULD HEAR LISA SAYING:  "MOM,  I DON'T NEED YOU NOW, BUT THEY DO.  I KNEW SHE MEANT HER GIRLS.  THIS TIME WHEN I SAT THERE I HEARD IT AGAIN, BUT THIS TIME I KNOW SHE WAS TALKING ABOUT YOU, THE PEOPLE WHO COME TO THIS SITE AND/OR READ THE BOOK.  I READ A SAYING THAT THE SUPERIOR PERSON FINDS WITHIN HIM/HERSELF ALL THAT THEY SEEK.  THE SMALLER  PERSON FINDS IT IN OTHERS.   START BY USING YOUR INNER STRENGTH TO LEARN, CHANGE, HELP AND FIND THE FREEDOM AND POWER YOU HAVE WITHIN YOURSELF.  iT'S IN THERE. THEN  FIND THOSE WHO WANT TO HELP YOU.  THEY'RE THERE.



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6/17/2010

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WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE?

6/17/2010

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IF YOU ARE IN A SITUATION WHERE YOU ARE A VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS TO VALUE YOURSELF AND RESOLVE NOT TO EVER LET ANYONE THINK THAT THEY HAVE THE RIGHT TO LAY THEIR HANDS ON YOU. iF YOU DON'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT, YOU SEND THE MESSAGE THAT IT'S OK. WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO CHANGE MIGHT BE YOUR DEATH NOTICE.  FOLLOW ALL THE STEPS AND PERSIST UNTIL YOU ARE FREE.

IF YOU ARE OR ARE NOT A VICTIM, ONE OF THE MOST APPRECIATED THINGS THAT PEOPLE REMEMBER ABOUT LISA IS THAT SHE REALIZED THE VALUE OF EDUCATION AND PUT HERSELF THRU COLLEGE.  THEN, EVEN THOUGH SHE COULD HAVE GONE INTO THE BUSINESS WORLD  AND FORGOTTEN ABOUT IT, SHE USED HER EDUCATION  TO HELP WOMEN IN SIMILAR SITUATIONS BECAUSE SHE KNEW WHAT IT WAS LIKE.  THERE IS NO GREATER OR MORE REWARDING PURPOSE THAN TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THE LIFE OF ANOTHER PERSON, AND HOPEFULLY, MANY PEOPLE.  THERE IS NOTHING THAT SUCCEEDS MORE THAN PERSISTENCE.  IT IS A POSITIVE WAY TO CONTRIBUTE TO SOCIETY AND YOU WILL HAVE LEFT YOUR MARK AND CONTRIBUTION. IT CAN BE ANYTHING FROM VOLUNTEER WORK TO LEGISLATION.  WE'VE BEEN LEFT BEHIND FOR TOO LONG.  LET'S KEEP UP THE MOMENTUM!!. 
MILLIE
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NEANDERTHAL DNA FOUND IN MODERN MAN? WHODDA THOUGHT?

6/6/2010

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THERE'S A LOT OF CURRENT DISCUSSION ABOUT NEANDERTHAL DNA FOUND IN MODERN MAN.  I, FOR ONE, WOULD BE OFFENDED IF I WERE  A NEANDERTHAL. 

STUDIES INDICATE THAT ALL GREAT APES (AND IF HOMO SAPIENS ARE A TYPE OF GREAT APE) HAVE THE ABILITY TO KKNOW WHEN A FEMALE IS OVULATING AND WILL HAVE SEX ONLY WITH OVULATING FEMALES.

MODERN MAN, ON THE OTHER HAND-----WELL, ---YOU KNOW,--- WILLL HAVE SEX ONLY WHILE HE IS BREATHING.  THIS SEEMINGLY UNCONTROLLABE URGE DESIGNED TO KEEP PEOPLE ON THE PLANET, FOR SOME IS THE MOTIVATING FACTOR IN RAPES, SEXUAL ASSAULTS, MOLESTATIONS, STALKINGS, SEX DRIVEN MURDERS, TORTURE AND ALL KINDS OF PERVERSIONS.

WHILE I AM NOT ADVOCATING SEX ONLY FOR PROCREATION, IT WOULD BE GREAT IF THE GUYS COULD FIND A HAPPY  IN BETWEEN.

HATS OFF TO THE NEANDERTHALS!
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