IN THE LAST TWO POSTS, WE DISCUSSED THE BASIC DRIVES OF THE MALE, THE DRIVE TO PROCREATE (SEX), THE DRIVE TO HUNT, DEFEND TERRITORY, POSESSION BY ANY MEANS BY KILLING.  OUR LOCAL PAPER YESTERDAY HAD THE FOLLOWING HEADLINES, "MAN KILLS MOTHER-IN-LAW, MAN MOLESTS AND KILLS SEVEN YEAR OLD, MAN KILLS FORMER GIRLFRIEND AND HER NEW LOVER."  IN THE LAST CASE, THE DEFENSE IS USING THE ALL TOO FAMILIAR DEFENSE OF "SHE WAS A SLUT  AND MY CLIENT IS A HURT YOUTH (20) WHO WENT TO THE APARTMENT IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT WITH A GUN TO "TALK".  THE "TALK CONSISTED OF THE WOMAN'S LOVER BEING SHOT IN THE HEAD IN BED AND HER BEING SHOT IN THE FACE IN THE LIVING ROOM.  BUCKSHOT PELLETS BURST THRU THEIR SKULLS AND INTO THEIR BRAINS.

 IN A MURDER TRIAL, THE DEFENSE IS ALLOWED SLANDER AS A DEFENSE IN A SPECIAL (POSSIBLE DEATH PENALTY) CASE.  THIS WAS TRUE IN LISA'S CASE, SOME VAGUE CHARGES OF SELLING DRUGS WHICH WAS PUBLISHED IN OUR LOCAL PAPER..I'M SURE THERE WERE OTHERS, BUT AS I WAS NOT ALLOWED IN THE COURTROOM EXCEPT FOR MY DIRECT TESTIMONY IT WAS PROBABLY BETTER, I WAS AT LEAST SPARED THE CRIME SCENE PHOTOS SHOWING THE RESULTS OF ALAN MATHENEY'S BLUDGEONING HER TO DEATH WITH A SHOTGUN. 

  FIRST BEING DRIVEN BY BASIC URGES,  WHEN MEN STARTED DEVELOPING THEIR BRAINS,  MANY BECAME LAWYERS IN ORDER TO DEFEND THEIR CLIENTS AND MADE ALL THE LAWS PREVENTING WOMEN FROM VOTING, OWNING PROPERTY, LISTING THE WOMAN AS CHATTEL, (AN ITEM OF PERSONAL MOVABLE PROPERTY ALONG WITH HIS CATTLE AND HOGS) OR  AND GENEROUSLY LIMITING THE LENGTH OF THE STICK A WOMAN COULD BEATEN WITH. 

HOW MANY WOMEN LAWYERS AND HOW MANY YEARS WILL IT TAKE TO EVEN-UP THE SYSTEM?  iF YOU WILL LEARN AND TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF, YOU CAN AVOID THE SYSTEM'S CRACKS.
WORKING FOR YOU,
MILLIE
 

THOSE OF YOU WHO READ THE PREVIOUS BLOG WILL BE INTERESTED TO HEAR THE WORDS OF SENTENCING JUDGE  ROBERT  E. CAHILL OF OF THE BALTIMORE COUNTY CIRCUIT COURT IN MARYLAND.  "I CANNOT THINK OF A CIRCUMSTANCE WHEREBY PERSONAL RAGE IS (MORE) UNCONTROLLABLE...THAN THIS FOR SOMEONE WHO IS HAPPILY MARRIED.   I SHUDDER TO THINK WHAT I WOULD DO."    THIS FOLLOWING THE DEFENDANT'S MURDER OF HIS  WIFE, WHO HE SAID WAS SLEEPING AROUND. THERE WAS TESTIMONY THAT THIS WAS A FACT, NEVER MIND THAT THE HUSBAND WAS AN ABUSIVE ALCOHOLIC, AND HAD ALMOST KILLED HER TWICE.     THAT WAS NOT ALLOWED TO ENTER INTO THE PICTURE.  SO, SINCE SHE WAS A "BAD VICTIM", SHE WAS THROWN AWAY. THIS HAPPENS ALMOST EVERY DAY IN OUR CRIMINAL JUSTICE SYSTEM.   THE MURDERER WAS MADE  BASICALLY A NON-CRIMINAL, RECEIVED 18 MONTHS IN JAIL WITH WORK RELEASE AND THE JUDGE EVEN APOLOGIZED TO THE MAN FOR UNCOMFORTABLE JAIL.CONDITIONS.  THIS COULD NOT HAVE HAPPENED WITHOUT THE PROSECUTOR'S PLEA  BARGAINING. 
WITHOUT ADVOCATES FOR THE VICTIM KEEPING HIM HONEST, THIS MAN OF JUSTICE CONSIDERED THE BENCH HIS PERSONAL ASYLUM. BUT FOR A REPORTER'S UNEXPECTED PRESENCE, HE WOULD HAVE GOTTEN AWAY WITH IT.
LEARN, LEARN, LEARN.  KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT.  KNOW WHO TO LIE DOWN WITH OR NOT.  VALUING YOURSELF AND PROTECTING YOURSELF IS OH, SO SMART.
MILLIE   .

Hi,

I thought today we'd imagine domestic violence from the beginning as with the caveman  called Priq and his "woman"        Mammes.  Priq kills his food, kills his enemies, kills intruders into his territory, just a regular day at the office.
Mammes his "woman" is another being somewhat like him, but much kinder and maternal and reasonable and willing to cook   Priq's food and clean the cave.

 Also, Priq is driven by an innate driving force which exhibits itself in rough sex.  He's not sure why, just knows that it feels darn good. Now, since Priq knows that Mammes is smaller and softer and smarter and more docile,but attractive to the other cave guys, he wants to make sure that she knows that she is his posession. He doesn't want to fight potential lookers, prefering to keep her in the cave and away from others.  Now Mammes is in too deep and has believed that she had to do this because Priq drags her by the hair and clubs her when she doesn't do what he says. Each time after  this happens, he makes soothing grunting sounds and Mammes believes he will change because that's what she wants to believe. She realizes too late that Priq is insecure and will do anything to keep her.

  He, in the meantime, is free to roam with other mates.  Mammes makes her escape and meets caveman Cuvit.  Priq is enraged and his ego will not take it.  He goes into full hunting mode and stalks and harasses his prey, this is his new life and no one else is going to get his posession and prey. . Each time it gets worse until he finally kills her..  In Cavemen's court, the judge is understanding,  saying "I don't know what I'd do myself if I loved someone."

Some things never change.  Got the message?

Take good care of yourself and think first and long..
Millie

Hello,
Glad to see you here.  Today, I'll talk about a personal experience with regard to the work force and the "glass ceiling".  This is what people refer to as the invisible limits placed on women in the work place by men.  I worked for a human resouces job placement company as a consultant after my regular career was over.  I went to a large company in South Bend, IN where they were looking for a person to work a high stress, detailed, lots of job training required job,  where there were a multitude of tests, including psychological.  The owner of the company told me in private:  "If you ever repeat this, I'll deny it.  I want women for these jobs because they have to take less money."   This is somewhat a play on the glass ceiling where men will be given jobs over women, unless, of course, the woman will work cheaper.  Dirty Play.
Take care of and speak up for yourself.
Millie.   

HI,,THIS IS THE PICTURE OF A BEAUTIFUL, SELF EDUCATED WOMAN WHO DID ALL THE RIGHT THINGS, PUT HER BATTERER IN JAIL AFTER DIVORCING HIM AND HE WAS STILL ABLE TO BRUTALLY MURDER HER.  WHY? THAT'S WHAT I HAVE ATTEMPTED TO ANSWER IN MY BOOK, 'WHO KILLED LANA B?"  THERE IS A LARGER PICTURE ON MY NEW PAGE IF YOU MISSED IT, JUST PUBLISHED YESTERDAY.  WILL BE EXPLORING THE ISSUES, LET'S LEARN TOGETHER.
AS ALWAYS, TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF AND STAY OUT OOF HARM'S WAY.
MILLIE.

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HI,
I HOPE TO BE ABLE TO GET YOU SOME PICTURES IN THE NEXT FEW WEEKS.  'TILL THEN HERE'S A LITTLE ABOUT US.     

I GREW UP ON A FARM IN MICHIGAN AND LOVE NATURE.  MY MOM DIED WHEN I WAS ELEVEN AND I BECAME THE MOTHER OF THE HOUSE.  I DIDN'T KNOW I COULDN'T DO IT, SO I DID.
LISA'S OLDEST DAUGHTER IS FAIR SKINNED, TALL AND BLOND AND ATTRACTIVE LIKE HER DAD.  SHE GRADUATED FROM EMORY UNIVERSITY AND GOT HER MASTER'S AT NORTHWESTERN., (THANKS TO HER TRUST.)  SHE LIVES IN OHIO AND WORKS IN SALES AND M,ARKETING FOR A MAJOR COMPANY..
THE YOUNGER IS DARK HAIRED AND OLIVE COMPLEXIONED LIKE LISA AND LOOKS A LOT LIKE HER, IN OTHER WORDS, BEAUTIFUL.  SHE'S WORKED IN THE MEDICAL AND MEDICAL INSURANCE FIELD AND HER FAVORITE PROFESSION IS MOM AND HAS THREE BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN.   LISA HAD A SOFT VOICE AND LOVING NATURE, AND STOOD ALMOST 5'2.  (LIKE HER M0M), EXCEPT THAT I'M SORTA KINDA BLOND. AND FAIR SKINNED..  JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW US A LITTLE BIT.
TODAY'S  THING TO REMEMBER;---LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE ANYONE ELSE EXCEPT YOUR CHILDREN.
MILLIE

HI,
The American author, James Baldwin said:

"The price one pays for pursuing any profession, or calling (I would add experience) is an intimate knowledge of it's ugly side."

Lisa paid the ultimate price and I am here not only   to show you the ugly side, but to try to help you from experiencing it.

I love society and all Lisa's sisters.

First and foremost, know that you are a valuable person and have the right to be free of anyone who would harm you in any way.   You have what it takes, all you have to do is help yourself.  Help is out there for us, but we have to recognize the need.
First and foremost, LOVE AND TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF!

So that I'm not accused of being a raging feminist, I want to share with you a result of some of my research for the book about Lisa's murder.  Regardless of what your political preferences, credit earned is credit due.  In my home state, I worked with Senator Joe Zakas on victim's bills.  I'll give you one Republican and one Democrat.

On the federal level, my research showed that Joe Biden, now Vice-President, then Senator, has shepherded and held firm the passage of  victim's rights acts since 1984, with the successful passage of the Comprehensive Crime Control Act.  He is often quoted as saying that he considers the Violence Against Women Act the single most significant legislation that he crafted in his  thirty-five-year tenure in the Senate.  He was also instrumental in the domestic violence hotline.  He also tried to get a bill passed to have a voluntary force of attorneys to help women victims of domestic violence. That was met with  statements of     being just another government giveaway.  You know that when an alleged criminal is taken in ,he/she is told that if they don't have or cannot afford an attorney; one will be appointed for them?    You don't hear that for the victim,  do you, who desperately needs an attorney, but cannot afford one?           .  See what I mean when I say:

TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF?!!!!!!
Millie
www.milliebianco.com
  

After Lisa's funeral and while I was cleaning out her home, I found a little spiral notebook with some poems, this is one of them, the other is in the book, and eerily inlcudes the phrase "I was here and now I am gone, I left my love to carry on" This was written years before her murder.

My life is like a dead- end street
 Having no new roads to try
My road is full of chuckholes
Seems I'm always falling behind.

Maybe someday, though
My life will change
Maybe men will come
And fix my road
To make it free
Of all it's chuckholes.

Make it a highway
Or at least lead to other roads
And then maybe I can come out,
Find a new road
Follow it to where it leads
And who knows
What I might find---
Maybe a new life, or could it be
To another dead end road?

Notice that she writes "Maybe MEN will come and fix my road".  How is that working for us? 
Take care of yourself and vote for the right women.
Millie
www.milliebianco.com