I remember another Mothers Day when the girls, Brooke and Amber were 6 and 10. Lisa's lawyer had told her to get out of town because there was no stopping a man obsessed and to whom a restraining order was just a piece of paper. We took off in the dark of night, like fugitives. We stayed in off-the-road motels and once in a friend's summer cottage. We were staying in one of the out-of-sight motels. I woke up Mother's Day morning to find that Lisa had managed to waken the girls and leave before I woke up. She soon returned with breakfast from McDonalds and she presented me with a Mothers coffee mug that she had managed to pick up during our travels. Running for her life and treating her mother on her day. Isn't that what all mothers do on their special day? What kind of a system is this?
Mother's Day for me is lacking two children, Lisa and Michael who was killed in an auto accident. But, Washington gave me the title of Mother of Victim Notification, so I'll fly that flag, and be mother to all of women for whom I work. I call them Lisa's sisters. I sincerely hope that you're having the kind of Mother's Day you deserve. Remember to keep the children safe from mayhem and harm, it's the most important job you'll ever have.
Just returned from DC where I did some filming for the SAVIN project. As you may or not know, my daughter was murdered as a result of lack of vitim notification as to where her abuser was. He was suppposed to be in jail. SAVIN is the program where victims can register and be made aware of where the abuser is at all times. There was nothing like this when Lisa was murdered. We n have this program in almost all 50 states. It is an automated system that will let the victim and those registered know where the abuser is and not let the victim be a victim of surprise. You can find out more about this program and if you or anyone else you know needs this you can go to www.savinonline.org. There is a map there where a click on your state where you can register . Another of Lisa's legacies. Stay safe, Millie
Just received a request from the national criminal justice association to return to Washington to do some filming for extension of training and awareness films.
This will be in mid October.
Do you think I have time for a face lift and liposuction?
All this and I never knew Washington knew my name.
The culmination of a dream I hardly dared dream.
Love to all those who continue the movement and all of Lisa's sisters in circumstance.
i WANT TO SHARE WITH ALL OF YOU THE GREAT HONOR i WAS AWARDED BY BEING INVITED TO WASHINGTON TO BE A PART OF THE NATIONAL CRIMINAL JUSTICE ASSOCIATIONS WEEK LONG PROGRAM. I WAS TREATED LIKE VISITING ROYALTY AND MET THE PEOPLE i HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR SINCE LISA'S MURDER. I'M VERY HAPPY TO TELL YOU THAT GOOD THINGS HAVE BEEN HAPPENING FOR VICITMS, LONG WAY TO GO, BUT THEY ARE DILIGENT IN THEIR PURPOSE. I'VE ALWAYS KNOWN THAT THINGS WOULD NEEED TO REACH THE FEDERAL LEVEL TO INSURE ACCOUNTABILTY FROM ALL AREAS , CITY, COUNTY, STATE, BECAUSE THEY ALL HAVE BEEN HANDLING OR NOT HANDLING AS THEY PLEASED.
iI WAS TOLD THAT HEARING MY PERSONAL STORY WAS INSPIRING AND THAT MY REMARKS WERE ESSENTION TO SETTING THE PERFECT TONE FOR THE ENTIRE NATIONAL WORKSHOP.
YESTERDAY I RECEIVED A LETTER FROM THE EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR OF THE NATIONAL CRIMINAL JUSTICE ASSOCIATION . BECAUSE OF MY WORK ON BEHALF OF VICTIMS FOR DECADES (HOW CAN THAT BE?) I'VE BEEN OFFICIALLY DESIGNATED WITH THE TITLE OF "MOTHER OF VICTIM NOTIFICATION". IS THAT WONDROUS OR WHAT? i NEVER MADE A CENT, DID WHAT I LOVED FOR LISA AND HER SISTERS AND NO AMOUNT OF MONEY COULD BUY THESE REWARDS!
Lee pulled her car up behind the ambulance in front of Lana's home. she got out of the car with shaking legs, told the policeman nearest her: " I'm Lana's mother, I want to see her." The view across the street was blocked, the doors of the ambulance open, but no one was inside. She could not see Lana and was unaware that she was lying across the street , dead.
The policeman stared blankly at her.
"I'm Lana's mother and I want to see her, she repeated becoming more alarmed. "Where is she?"
A strange look came over the policeman's face. He seemed unable to respond and eventually blurted out: "Well, ma'am he bludgeoned her to death."
Lee heard in her ears a scream that seemed to come from the depths of the earth and rise to the heavens. She distinctly remembered that in the midst of that scream, the thought came over her, "Free at last, my darling daughter, free at last."
That's what it can come to for victims of domestic violence and their families: the final release from stalking, beating, harrassment, victimization is death. She felt her kneess going out from underneath her and someone supporting her and saying: "The girls need you."
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THE HITS ON THIS WEBSITE HAVE SPIKED AND I WANT TO THANK CHERYL AND ALL MY FRIENDS IN THE MICHIANA AREA FOR THEIR HELP IN RESEARCHING AND VISITING THE SITE. MY MISSION HAS ALWAYS BEEN TO INFORM THE PUBLIC OF WHAT LURKS BEHIND CLOSED DOORS IN THE AREA OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. PLEASE LEARN AND REMEMBER. I THANK YOU AND I KNOW LISA WOULD, TOO.
MILLIE BIANCO
HIDING FROM DETAILS OF LISA BIANCO'S MURDER, LOCAL PRESS SHUNS BOOK
While getting good response and exposure to Who Killed Lana B? in my new home state and areas outside South Bend, Mishawaka and Elkhart,, the major newspapers in South Bend and Elkhart, Indiana refused to print press releases on my book.
What does that tell you? Some things they would like to keep from the public? Some things not good Chamber of Commerce material? Some people pull shady stuff?. These are the things you need to know. During the time of the big story and my work on behalf of domestic violence victims, I was the media darling. That was when I had to be somewhat "politically correct". The book is not, and I am so happy to be able to divulge some of the "secrets of the system". Take advantage and learn from Lisa.
Millie
THIS IS A POEM I FOUND IN A LITTLE SPIRAL NOTEBOOK AT LISA'S HOME FOLLOWING THE FUNERAL.
MY LIFEIS LIKE A DEAD-END STREET
HAVING NO NEW ROADS TO TRY
MY ROAD IS FULL OF CHUCKHOLES
SEEMS I'M ALWAYS FALLING BEHIND
MAYBE SOMEDAY, THOUGH
MY LIFE WILL CHANGE
MAYBE MEN WILL COME AND FIX MY ROAD
MAKE IT FREE OF ALL IT'S CHUCKHOLES
MAKE IT A HIGHWAY
OR AT LEAST LEAD TO OTHER ROADS
AND THEN MAYBE I CAN COME OUT
FIND A NEW ROAD
FOLLOW IT TO WHERE IT LEADS
AND WHO KNOWS
WHAT I MIGHT FIND-----
MAYBE A NEW LIFE, OR COULD IT BE
TO ANOTHER DEAD-END ROAD?
YOU NOTICE LISA WROTE"MAYBE "MEN" WILL COME AND FIX MY ROAD?"
MAYBE, BUT I THINK ITS GOING TO TAKE LOTS AND LOTS OF WOMEN, INVOLVED IN EVERYTHING FROM LAW ENFORCEMENT, SUPPORT, LEGISLATION AND JUDGES ON THE BENCH. ESPECIALLY IN THE FIELD OF LEGISLATION, (ATTORNEYS), I'VE FOUND MANY WOMEN DISALLUSIONED AND GIVE UP CRIMINAL PROSECUTION. DON'T DO IT, WE NEED YOU MOST TO BALANCE OUT THE SYSTEM. THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE TO MANKIND. (WOMENKIND)
MILLIE
WE OFTEN HEAR ABOUT A CYCLE OF VIOLENCE. THIS IS WHEN A VICTIM IS HURT MENTALLY OR PHYSICALLY, THE ABUSER THEN GOES AWAY FOR A WHILE AND THEN CONTACTS THE VICTIM WITH WHAT SEEMS TO BE REMORSE, "I'M SORRY, I'LL NEVER DO IT AGAIN. IT HAPPENS AGAIN, AGAIN, THE ABUSER IS SORRY AND THERE'S ANOTHER "HONEYMOON ". EACH TIME THIS HAPPENS THE ABUSE ESCALATES. SHE'S SURE HE WILL EVENTUALLY CHANGE, BUT HE DOESN'T. THE WAIT FOR THE CHANGE IS SOMETIMES A DEATH SENTENCE FOR THE VICTIM.
THERE WAS ONCE A TRAVELER GOING UP THE MOUNTAIN ON FOOT. AT THE BOTTOM, HE MET A SNAKE. THE SNAKE BEGGED: "PLEASE TAKE ME UP THE MOUNTAIN, I'M SO TIRED AND YOU COULD JUST PUT ME IN YOUR POCKET." THE TRAVELER SAID," OH, NO, YOU'RE A SNAKE AND YOU WILL BITE ME." THE SNAKE WAS SO PATHETIC AND SAID, "OH, I WOULD NEVER DO THAT, IF YOU WERE SO KIND TO ME AND JUST PUT ME IN YOUR POCKET.I'LL NEVER DO THAT." SO, THE TRAVELER PICKED UP THE SNAKE AND STARTED UP THE MOUNTAIN. WHEN HE GOT TO THE TOP AND WAS TAKING THE SNAKE OUT OF HIS POCKET, THE POISONOUS SNAKE BIT HIM. THE TRAVELER CRIED IN PAIN AND CRUSHING DISAPPOINTMENT: "YOU PROMISED YOU WOULDN'T BITE ME!" TtHE SNAKE SNEERED AND LOOKED HIM IN THE EYE AND SAID: "YOU IDIOT, YOU KNEW WHAT I WAS WHEN YOU PICKED ME UP!" ARE YOU PICKING UP A SNAKE?HOW MANY TIMES SHOULD YOU PICK UP A SNAKE BEFORE YOU LEARN?
PLEASE LEARN SOONER THAN LATER.
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