For the education of people, Lisa DID have a gun and permit. However, if you had a resourceful six and ten year old in the house, would you have a loaded gun within easy reach? The abuser does not phone head and tell you of his visit, does he? No, he stalks, waits, then kicks in the door. You can't spend your life sitting on the couch with a loaded gun in your hand, can you? Lisa had just gotten out of the tub when he broke in. As she had instucted her clients at the Women's Shelter where she was program director, she managed to get outside and ran screaming to a neighbor's front door, where she was bludgeoned to death. He was supposed to be in jail and she was supposed to be advised if he ever was released for any reason. So, I can only assume that this comment came from someone who does not know about domestic violence. Lisa knew, I know..........
Take good care of yourself and continue to learn.